Friday, September 14, 2007

Live-in Boyfriend vs. Husband

A survey reveals that Married men do less housework than Live-in Boyfriends .
Do you think that this survey will encourage girls for live-in relationships?


Vrij said...
Oh yes.. now girls on o3 will be ready for a live-in.. how sad me already married :(

LP said...
Glad that I opted for BIWI instead of a live-in GF!

Frenchita said...
naah ..based on the fact alone that live ins do more work than husbands ??? naaah if at all , girls like live in relationships its for for trial basis ..to test compatibility ..or just for fun ..without the hassles of a marriage ..and responsiblities of husbnd and in laws

Girish said...
I sure hope so =)

nz said...
Look at the guys' reactions - unbelievable ;-)But, naah...I dont think just a survey will influence such important decisions whether its live-in or marriage.

Tejbir said...
ye depend karta hai ki live-in actually kahan hai... if girl's home then, obviously no choice guy will have to work if he doesn't want to pay the house rent!

Lavina said...
Either ways its inviting trouble!! :P Why not legalise things to make life a little easier then?? :))

Anjali said...
wat i hv felt, liv-in is where both d partners r always ready to go extra mile for each other........which lacks in marriage....and yes men do more work as liv-in bf..............but i don't think only for dis reason women want to hv liv ins.........dere r so many things to consider.

Ellen said...
Ugh! who did that survey?! How could they make such a sweeping statement; it's taken case to case. lols I think that marriage, live-in, or any other relationship for that matter, would truly depend on the persons involved in it. I see some marriages in which the husband shares in the housework beautifully ....and some live-in arrangements in which the male is such a big lazy inconsiderate slob. What would make this work or make the male actively involved in the responsibilities of keeping house is a no-nonsense approach to this kind of issue. A broader understanding of expectations obligations and responsibilities and a realistic view of the marriage can pave the way for doing what should be jointly done in the home. The old Stereotypes of male and female roles are disappearing and replaced by this kind of give-and-take environment in home management. I don't believe that one should do specific things just because she is female... or rather that one should not do anything that a female is expected to do because he is male. That doesn't work anymore. It's old school. A relationship of sharing has a better chance of making it in this rough and tumble world of marriages or live-in's. The thing is know your own strengths and weaknesses, communicate it, and put these to good and better use in your home with your partner for the kind of life you both mutually agree to have.

Wise donkee said...
Hopefully, it would, since legally,physically, and financially, in the context of Our Constitution, live in relationships are better for women than a married relationship. Marriage is merely an illusion of security. Live in legally has the following advantages for women. 1.Rape is not a crime if committed by a husband but a crime if committed by the boyfriend. So a woman has basic control over her body. 2.Women in live in dont have illusions of financial security, a married woman thinks her husband will take care of her financially, but in the event of divorce, no hard assets and no portion of his investments, provident fund or pension would come to her. Even alimony,is at the judge's discretion and based on her husband's income.The most she could hope for, would be one-fifth of the husband's pre-tax (roughly a third of his post-tax) income as alimony. And that too has to be proved by her. A woman in a live is more likely to think about financial planning than a wife. And the element of dowry gets missed in live-ins. 3.Wives are not natural guardians or even co-guardians of their children. A woman had to go to Supreme Court to open even a bank deposit in her son's name. But thats not the case when it comes to a live in. So its not a bad deal even for the children in the relationship. 4.Wives are not supposed to look care for their parents. As long as this happens, female foeticide will continue, and that means less brides for men. While in live in, its easier for her to take care of her parents financially and emotionally. 5.Emotionally none who get divorced think during their marriage,that it could end in divorce. Atleast in live-ins people are better prepared for a split. In marriage, the focus is on a grand wedding but not the relationship after it. And the appearance of a happy relationship. But in live in, the focus is on the couple. Ultimately it depends on the couple. But the sensible option for women, is definitely live in, in the current social-legal environment.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Oh yes.. now girls on o3 will be ready for a live-in.. how sad me already married :(

Anonymous said...

Glad that I opted for BIWI instead of a live-in GF!

Anonymous said...

naah ..based on the fact alone that live ins do more work than husbands ???

naaah

if at all , girls like live in relationships its for for trial basis ..to test compatibility

..or just for fun ..without the hassles of a marriage ..and responsiblities of husbnd and in laws

Unknown said...

I sure hope so =)

Anonymous said...

Look at the guys' reactions - unbelievable ;-)

But, naah...I dont think just a survey will influence such important decisions whether its live-in or marriage.

Anonymous said...

ye depend karta hai ki
live-in actually kahan hai...
if girl's home then, obviously no choice
guy will have to work if he doesn't want to pay
the house rent!

Anonymous said...

Either ways its inviting trouble!! :P
Why not legalise things to make life a little easier then?? :))

Anonymous said...

wat i hv felt, liv-in is where both d partners r always ready to go extra mile for each other........which lacks in marriage....and yes men do more work as liv-in bf..............but i don't think only for dis reason women want to hv liv ins.........dere r so many things to consider.

Anonymous said...

Ugh! who did that survey?! How could they make such a sweeping
statement; it's taken case to case. lols

I think that marriage, live-in, or any other relationship for that matter,
would truly depend on the persons involved in it. I see some marriages
in which the husband shares in the housework beautifully ....and some
live-in arrangements in which the male is such a big lazy inconsiderate slob.

What would make this work or make the male actively involved in
the responsibilities of keeping house is a no-nonsense approach to this
kind of issue. A broader understanding of expectations obligations and
responsibilities and a realistic view of the marriage can pave the way for
doing what should be jointly done in the home. The old Stereotypes of
male and female roles are disappearing and replaced by this kind of
give-and-take environment in home management. I don't believe that
one should do specific things just because she is female... or rather
that one should not do anything that a female is expected to do because
he is male. That doesn't work anymore. It's old school.

A relationship of sharing has a better chance of making it in this rough
and tumble world of marriages or live-in's. The thing is know your own
strengths and weaknesses, communicate it, and put these to good and
better use in your home with your partner for the kind of life you both
mutually agree to have.

Anonymous said...

Hopefully, it would, since legally,physically, and financially, in the context of Our Constitution, live in relationships are better for women than a married relationship.
Marriage is merely an illusion of security. Live in legally has the following advantages for women.

1.Rape is not a crime if committed by a husband but a crime if committed by the boyfriend. So a woman has basic control over her body.

2.Women in live in dont have illusions of financial security, a married woman thinks her husband will take care of her financially, but in the event of divorce, no hard assets and no portion of his investments, provident fund or pension would come to her. Even alimony,is at the judge's discretion and based on her husband's income.The most she could hope for, would be one-fifth of the husband's pre-tax (roughly a third of his post-tax) income as alimony. And that too has to be proved by her. A woman in a live is more likely to think about financial planning than a wife. And the element of dowry gets missed in live-ins.

3.Wives are not natural guardians or even co-guardians of their children. A woman had to go to Supreme Court to open even a bank deposit in her son's name. But thats not the case when it comes to a live in. So its not a bad deal even for the children in the relationship.

4.Wives are not supposed to look care for their parents. As long as this happens, female foeticide will continue, and that means less brides for men. While in live in, its easier for her to take care of her parents financially and emotionally.

5.Emotionally none who get divorced think during their marriage,that it could end in divorce. Atleast in live-ins people are better prepared for a split.
In marriage, the focus is on a grand wedding but not the relationship after it. And the appearance of a happy relationship. But in live in, the focus is on the couple.

Ultimately it depends on the couple. But the sensible option for women, is definitely live in, in the current social-legal environment.